Natural hair journeys can tend to sound like a dreamy paradise with lots of shea butter and coconut oil. Well, the shea butter and coconut oil part is true, but the dreamy paradise? Not so true.
I have been natural for 6 years now and I just recently started loving my hair, looking back I wish I had read more honest opinions at the beginning of my natural hair journey. Rather than just being bombarded with countless products that did not make much difference to my hair.
Being natural in Nigeria is an entirely different ball game, because regardless of all the hype it has now. Many people still have backward views towards it. These are some questions that I would have loved to know the answers to before I started my natural hair journey. So I reached out to an expert in this natural hair game to share THE REAL TEA on this natural hair journey.
Meet Daisy Emenike a Nigerian natural hair educator and author of a natural hair manual.
Daisy Emenike is a 20 something, Trilingual (English, Mandarin, Igbo) and International Communications Graduate. She is also a blogger and author of a Hair Manual titled “Daisy’s Hair Secrets”. She has been on this journey for 4 years and still going. She is not her hair but she’s pretty amazing. A shutterbug, fitness junkie, food lover, aspiring globe-trotter and lover of all things glamorous.
1. How long have you been natural? And why have you stayed natural?
2. Have you ever thought of relaxing your hair? If yes, What stopped you from going through with it?
3. Let’s talk wash day struggle? How does wash day go for you?
4. The shedding! What’s your experience with shedding since you started ?
5. What’s the biggest lie you heard before you turned natural?
DE: Biggest lie happens to be that you can use beer to rinse your relaxed hair to magically make it natural. Who even came up with that cock and bull story?
6. Is it really cheaper to have natural hair in Nigeria? What’s your take?
7. At what length was your hair toughest to style? Or are there still days like that for you?
Daisy being such a darling, also had some questions for me. Her questions actually made me think deep, and realize some things about my natural hair that I never had.
8 . Have people treated you differently when you had your hair hidden? what was their demeanour compared to when you had you hair out?
UN: Not really, most times I get compliments for whatever protective style I have on. But as for when my hair is out, it is usually surprise from people who don’t know I am natural.
However, I have gotten some mean and unnecessary comments. Like one time I tried straw curls for the first time which took me hours to do because I have full hair, one old man now had the effrontery to tell me I looked unkempt. That really upset and almost made me feel bad, but then it made me want to embrace my hair more.
I’ve also gotten some, you should comb your hair and other unwanted comments about my hair when I’ve had it out here and there. But I have also gotten a lot of love for my natural hair so it sort of makes up for the hateful comments.
9. If given the opportunity would you have done anything differently with regards to starting out your natural hair journey?
10. How do you truly feel about your natural hair? are you proud of it? Does it influence your personality majorly? or minutely?
UN: Right now I am in the process of falling in love with my curls. I’ve been natural for a while, but I had so much negativity towards my hair, hated the fact it wasn’t long, hated my curl pattern and all that.
But ever since I started extending my self-love therapy to my hair, I must say that I feel my hair is actually bomb. I am super proud of it, I am even getting over my dissatisfaction with my length and embracing it even.
My hair majorly influences my personality, I am a free-spirit and I feel natural hair embodies that freedom for me personally. I also love natural products so it just adds to that. Fun fact, it is because of my natural hair I decided to get ear piercings, I told myself it would make my face more interesting, well 6 piercings later I guess it was a good choice. lol!
Being natural, is a journey we should all strive to enjoy regardless of how tough it may seem at times. The best advice for being natural is always going to be “Less is More” except when it comes to moisturizer that one More is KEY! Did you enjoy this read? Stick around to read more posts. Subscribe so you get notified when new posts are out.